Except for the lack of friends. When someone gets mad at me, I assume they hate me and avoid them for months. My main problem is that I simply abhor small talk. I understand why we have those conventions. There are days where I refuse to leave my house because the idea of interacting with people is just too overwhelming. As autistic people, we are constantly having to think about every little thing we do and say, which can be absolutely draining.
Each [is] tuned to a different channel and has the volume on. Now stand there and try to listen to just one of them. Nothing in this world makes sense to you. People say and do weird things, ask you weird questions and get offended by things you think are completely fine.
Eventually, you do learn most of the rules, but you always have to remind yourself of what to do. I have never moved out and likely will not for a long while. Socially, I feel about Emotionally, I feel about the same age, and mentally, I feel about I get along better with teens or kids.
It also helps me remember to do essential stuff like prepare meals, brush my teeth, shower, etc… I have a tendency to forget otherwise. I believe there is a rational and logical solution to any problem and that people who let their emotions control their decisions should reconsider. My way of thinking has been quite helpful in my field of study computer science , but not so much with my girlfriend who is not on the spectrum.
Yes, I had to learn things that come very easily to you, but some things come easily to me that may not come easily to you.
It probably has something to do with a kid's genes and other things that change the way the brain develops. Doctors check babies and little kids for signs of autism at every checkup. A parent may think that something is wrong and tell the doctor.
Maybe the child is old enough to speak but doesn't. Or a kid doesn't seem interested in people or plays in unusual ways. When a doctor thinks a kid might have autism, he or she will work with a team of experts to see if it is autism or something else. There is no cure for autism, but treatment can make a big difference.
The younger kids are when they start treatment, the better. Doctors, therapists, and special education teachers can help kids learn to talk, play, and learn. Therapists also help kids learn about making friends, taking turns, and getting along. Some people with ASD do not feel that they have a disorder and don't want to change. You can imagine in that situation that meltdowns are predictable, primarily because of the amount of interactions I have to have daily.
Extra sensitivity to the world around you is a hallmark of autism, so any time the senses get overloaded or overstimulated, you might get flooded and have a meltdown. Overstimulation can be too much light or noise, crowded spaces or too many things going on at the same time. Sensory overload is one reason many public places, like football stadiums , zoos and theaters, are finally creating sensory rooms. Too much light. Too many people in a room.
Too many stupid conversations about nothing. Too much noise including certain kinds of pop music. Too many things to do, not feeling well, sensory overload, being pressed for time, trying to handle an emergency, too many things going wrong, too much time around people.
Sometimes, the cause of a meltdown can be something that looks small and super specific. Whether that be a misunderstanding, small comments about me. A specific smell or texture of something, high pitched noise, not being able to find stuff. Having a particular a routine or building a certain amount of predictability into your day is comforting. However, if things start to feel out of control or chaotic, that can cause anxiety, overstimulation or sensory overload and lead to a meltdown.
It can also feel out of control when a series of smaller things seem to go wrong all at the same time. So if I go somewhere chaotic, I try to just plan for three hours. When it gets hard I leave for a bit, I bring a sensory bag and I always take my own car. When too many unusual things happen at once and shatter my belief that everything is alright.
Maintaining comfort in your physical space is important. When that space is compromised somehow, it may lead to a meltdown. This could mean feeling physically stuck in a small room, trapped into a conversation or when someone is too far into your personal space. This is doubly true is the invasion into your space makes you anxious.
Being stuck, most of all. Also when someone harangues or just hovers over me physically. My anxiety is thus, triggered. Social interactions can be exhausting, confusing and uncomfortable on their own. The social discomfort can also look like being interrupted too often or needing to change topics too many times in the same conversation.
People coming at me from all sides, for example in trade shows, I just freeze and start sweating and palpitating, my skin on fire, about to burst into tears whilst internally screaming at myself to stop being stupid and just move.
Having to make my brain jump from topic to topic over and over again leaves me shaking, if not worse. Amazon shoppers are living in these on-sale joggers: 'OMG these are the most comfortable pants I've ever owned! Dust like nobody's watching.
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